Here are Patti Carmalt-Vener M.F.T. ‘s latest columns from
Pasadena Weekly, Oxygen Magazine,
Pasadena Cosmopolitan, Arcadia Weekly, Monrovia Weekly,
and Sierra Madre Weekly

Patti's Pasadena Weekly "Well Being" Column High Expectations At the end of the day, you don’t have to please anyone but yourselft ... read more Rules of Engagement What to do — and not do — when push comes to shove ... read more Down but in denial In trying to understand others, you could be contributing to ... read more Perils of Porno Cybersex addiction tough but treatable ... read more Stick to your guns You can be warm to loved ones and still firm about what you want ... read more Mirror, Mirror ... Be wary of attempts at being more beautiful evolving into ... read more Just listen to yourself ‘Hear’ what your body’s telling you, then find the ... read more They are what you eat Providing kids with healthy food helps them practice good self-care,... read more Persistence pays Focus, accountability and commitment are critical... read more Fresh Start New Year is the right time to resolve to change for the better ... read more Christmas on the run A trip to Grandma’s tests a family’s unity during challenging times ... read more A gift just for you Pamper yourself to beat stress over hectic holiday tasks ... read more The perfect hostess Be sure your holiday feast doesn’t feature too many cooks ... read more Loving you Recognize the damage you’ve done to yourself and commit ... read more Thanks for sharing Get kids into the holiday spirit by establishing gratitude ... read more Hmmm ... What else isn't true? It’s important to quickly dispel fibs told in the early stages ... read more Working at love A co-worker’s intimate game of footsies with a customer leads to ... read more Nowhere to turn Unplanned teen pregnancy is one of the times that tests ... read more Swinging back into Life Single parents who are dating again need to pay to potential red flags ... read more Daddy dumbest Single parents need to be mindful of their children when pursuing ... read more Differently abled Asperger's adults have some shortcomings but lots .. read more Change for the better Six ways to to take back your life and work on your own happiness ... read more Imagining the best Practice, preparation and relaxation can help overcome... read more Baby Steps Changes are challenging for habitual hoarders ... read more Doing the Right Thing A friendly request for help can prompt serious questions ... read more Silent treatment Can a vow of silence help enhance a relationship ... read more Seeking mother's warmth The reasons for how we react to some people may have deeper ... read more 'Overboarding' through life The reasons for how we react to some people may have deeper ... read more Little victories Take small steps to help build a youngster's self-esteem ... read more It takes two Boundaries need to be established to keep bullies at bay ... read more A need to belong Emotional ties to others sow the seeds of human happiness ... read more A heartbreaking choice Deciding on bearing a deformed baby is too tough to do solo ... read more Be all you can be Staying true to your rightful nature can lead you to discover ... read more Phobic and friendless People suffering with Avoidant Personality Disorder must want change ... read more When love isn't equal Teaching self-compassion is one way to help kids overcome rejection ... read more Loving the other woman Separating needs from wants may be best for teen daughters ... read more Let's talk Sex it great, but sometimes a little cuddling us is better ... read more The right to love A person must earn the right to be itimate and real ... read more Don't ignore grandma's grief ... read more In search of love Fear of intimacy may lead to beliefs that love is wrong and... read more Be your own best boss ... read more Setting limits Cast an encouraging but wary eye at an exploring toddler ... read more Words hurt ... and bind If verbal abusers are to be forgiven, they need to sign a formal ... read more Imagining the worst Worry that makes you sweat and lose sleep ... read more Keep your hat on With age, celebrate the good things in a changing life, ... read more

Patti's Oxygen "Ask an Expert " Column Relationships - Healthy relationship, Healthy livestyle .. read more Patti's Pasadena Weekly "Well Being" Column (cont.) The Thoughts that Count Absent dad plus angry mom adds up to a rough holiday. .. read more Inner Visions Letting your wise inner self show you something beautiful. .. read more Life in metaphor Different dream symbols tell us similar things about our lives ... read more No good deed Be supportive and patient while sharing painful holiday memories ...read more Obsessively yours Don’t let a family member’s oppressive ocd symptoms ruin your life ...read more The parenting grandparent Tragedy presents new challenges to a baby and his single grandpa ...read more Rules to live by Set parameters for how far grandparents can go when babysitting ...read more Secret Sharer Take stock and recognize the beauty that lies within .. read more Under Control Tourette's syndrome can be complicated, and misdiagnosed .. read more The deepest pain Just being there is enough.. read more Well being Cyclothymia and how do deal with it. .. read more The thought really does count Treat your wife as you would a rare treasure. .. read more Letting Go Insist on being with someone who loves only you. .. read more Tough Choices Try some hard truth when being scared just isn't enough. .. read more Transferring Pain Letting negative feelings for some spill over into relationships with others .. read more Pain Killers Suicides are sometimes the result of misplaced pain, rage or guilt. .. read more The Illustrated Son Mental health can’t be measured by the ink a person puts on their body ... read more Staying friends People who feel they’re drifting apart can help each other change ... read more Don't hold back Fear of intimacy can lead to resistance to impulses, ... read more Helping hands Empathy, acceptance,and love are what depressed loved ones need ,., read more Healthy anger Steadfast love .. read more The Grumpy Bear Chair Very young kids need guidance — not punishment... read more Addiction Never give up hope.. read more Fear's barriers People seeking help put up walls when faced with powerful emotions ... read more Beautiful you Growing past the ugly duckling of yesteryear ... read more Nobody's perfect Poor body image can lead to problems.. read more The way back Reuniting is a two-way street ... read more Puppy love Early lessons in pet ownership will last a lifetime ... read more Clicking' with your therapist Don’t rush into selecting the person ... read more It takes three. Let's look at you, me and us.... read more Free to be Some people need more help than others in gaining independence... read more Extra-special love There are no easy answers to caring for a mentally challenged... read more Rivals for life read more Say what? Really listening is often the hardest part of communicating ... read more Time to quit We all know smoking is bad, but here are a few ways to help ... read more Cutting into bigger problems Self-mutilators have unusually strong emotions that rise fast and ... read more Don't panic! Focus on thoughts, feelings and senses to conquer fears... read more It's not your fault Rape victims must place blame where it belongs , ... read more Envisioning you Don't let engulfment or defiance lead to losing your unique ... read more When sorry isn't good enough Reconnecting with spouses who cheat is easier said than done ... read more A little understanding Knowledge and compassion are two good tools, helping kids with autism... read more Saying no, in a loving way A borderline mom may be a queen, but her daughter is not ... read more Your Not OK, I'm Not OK Therapy can't change reality, but it can help us better deal with ... read more Above the fray Kids caught in the middle of separation need parents focusing, ... read more

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